Lately I've been feeling like a bit of a poser as I leave comments on your blogs.
When someone does well, I cheer them on, and while I mean it sincerely (really I do), there's a part of me that's saying, "why can't I lose that much?"
When someone's struggling, I try to be supportive and positive, but I'm thinking, "Who am I to say keep it up? I've been at the same weight for months. I'm struggling so much, how can I give anyone else advice and support?"
So, I'm finding that I don't leave as many comments as I used to, because frankly, I don't think I'm qualified. I want ALL of you to succeed, believe me. I am truly happy for you when you reach your goals, when you overcome your obstacles, when you have terrific NSV's and are celebrating your successes. And I feel your pain and frustration when you are struggling to get back "on the wagon", when you're slipping back into your old habits.
But how can I offer you advice and encouragement when I'm not doing those things myself? How can I tell you to "keep it up" when I can't get through the day without overdoing my food intake?
I hope you know how much I'm rooting you on, and I hope you'll forgive me if I don't comment as much as you'd like, or if my comments seem a bit lacking. It's not that I don't care - I'm just floundering a bit right now.
That being said - I had a good day today eating-wise. Here's to one under the belt - now on to the next day....
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22 comments:
Saying, "I'm happy for your success" or "I'm rooting for you" says it all. I really appreciate the sincere quality of this post. It's a pleasure coming to your blog and reading your words.
I think that is why blogging through all of this is what has really kept me from throwing in the towel completely and gaining it all back.
Everyone has different ebbs and flows and that helps US remember that we too, will have ebbs and flows. It will come back to you, just one day at a time until it is more natural.
I have now had ONE day within points for the first time in weeks. I have been at basically the same weight for MONTHS, so I am with you!
I've felt like this many many times. Know that you are NOT ALONE! Not in the journey, not in the plateau, not in the struggles, and not in the successes.
All comments are welcomed :) None of us are perfect and we all walk in each others' shoes at some point.
You havent visited my blog in over 2 months!!!!
No worries!
Like someone else said, we all ebb & flow. Sometimes I'm brimming over with enthusiasm & support...other times I'm lucky to get one post up a week & to read 2-3 blogs.
Luckily this is seems to be an unconditional "puppy love" environment. Even when someone doesn't post for weeks, heck months, I'll see comments asking where they are & what they are doing. The people in bloggyland really do care...and isn't that just flat out amazing?
So don't worry about not commenting. Keep on taking care of yourself - that tops everything else. :)
Lynn
I definitely feel that same way and by the previous comments we are not alone! Thanks for posting what I have been scared to publicly admit!
BUT!....
Life is just one day at a time and that is all any of us can do! (getting off my soapbox now☺)
just know that we are all here to lean on for support! Glad you had a good day! :) Heres to another one tomorrow! :)
You really didn't have to explain. We are all in the same mode, we want to look and feel better. We visit yours, and you visit ours, everything is optional. Have the very best day, and keep up your will power.
Sincerely, Secretia
Don't beat yourself up, it's a tough time of year right now. We're nested right in the middle of two big eating holidays and if that weren't enough, the weather's cold and gloomy and pushing us into hibernation mode. It's perfectly OK to blog less or lurk or leave comments if you feel like it. Take care of yourself and handle eating healthy one day at a time. We're all rooting for you too!
It is a hard time right now, and I think that leaving comments on people's blogs is another way to help yourself. You can feel motivated, encouraged, and resolved while supporting fellow bloggers at the same time. Not that you have to leave a comment on everyone's blog of course, but just the ones that touch you.
Take care,
Diane
That's so funny-I have the same exact issue. I don't even feel like blogging sometimes-a weight loss blog where no weight is loss is pretty much an epic fail!!!
But I love comments-I mean I LOVE comments. I even love spam. Ok not really...but all other comments welcome :D
Hope you are having a great Wednesday!
You commented on my blog saying "are we the same person?" and i had to laugh because I feel the exact same on this post ;)
I also want everyone to succeed, but I often feel like I can wax poetic about this and that - but come to my blog and see me flounder!
And YES, we focus on the positives - and just as I said to my friend Kim, falling down, plateaus in our mind and body and even stumbling backwards - is all PART of the journey :)
We're all in this together, Jenn (sorry for the High School Musical theme - lol!), but seriously, we've all felt the same way at one time or another. I say "fake it til you make it"!
Glad you had a good day!
You have lost so much weight! I know I offer encouragement to others even when I'm not doing the best myself. It helps me realize that I need to be encouraging myself too! Keep the comments coming!
I totally feel like a hypocrite sometimes when I try to spur people on, but even if your comment helps them feel a tiny bit more positive then at least you've helped!!
Tree huggers still use toilet paper, right? (I have a point, hang on...) Yes, they do. People are often too hard on themselves for not being able to be perfect. In my opinion, the environmental activists still do wonders for helping to improve the world even if they do hand out paper pamplets and carry banners mounted on planks of wood. The important thing is to do the best you can within each moment, and I truly believe you are doing that. Just because you are having a hard time right now doen't mean that you don't have valuable advice to offer, nor do your inner thoughts of admiration mean that you are not sincere in your congratulatory comments. I think that you have an important voice in this community, Jenn, and I do hope that you keep using it. No pressure, obviously, but just my thoughts. Keep up the great work!
Hi Jenn- Just found your blog... there seems to be this really tight-knit community between bloggers and their commitment to live a healthier life! I would really like to get more involved with your journey and offer you a different perspective on diet & health! I LOVE your blog title and layout... totally jealous :)
This is why you are qualified - because we all go through the same struggles, the same successes, the same ups and downs. You are not a poser, because this is a journey we are all taking - albeit at different paces and stages - but I know that I often feel the way you do, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.
Who says that you have to have all the answers in order to participate? Everyone's journey is different ... we can all learn from your successes, and yes, your struggles and failures.
As Sue says (from http://didijusteatthatoutloud.blogspot.com) "fake it till you make it!" Just be honest that's what you're doing ... and vow to try to understand why you're sabotaging yourself. We won't hate you or scold you, unless you want us to. I promise we won't point and laugh, unless you say something funny!
Don't isolate yourself. That way lies pain and frustration.
I agree 'Fake it till you make it', sometimes it's all you can do to keep going. Just keep going and make choice a day that will be better than yesterday! I am making homemade pizza today instead of just ordering some...at least I know how much crap I am getting when I can control what I am doing!!
I'm sure I'm saying exactly what everyone else said. You are So qualified to comment. We're all in this together, none of us have this figured out, we all struggle. We want to hear from you!
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